How do you find time to do what inspires you when the kids are always hanging off you? Creativity coach and mama Naomi Morrow shares her story.
It can be so easy to decide that now is not the time for creativity.
Mamahood demands so much of our time and energy, doing anything as ‘indulgent’ as connecting with our creative side – whether it’s gardening, painting, drawing or singing – can seem impossible. We can give up, and accept that that part of our lives is on hold.
But we musn’t, mamas.
Finding ways to feel inspired, and to do those tasks that light us up, is paramount to our sanity. More than that, it teaches our children how to slow down, disconnect from the online world, and be happy in our own space.
It nourishes us, it helps us feel calmer, it allows us to do something beyond the housework or paid work.
Here, creativity coach and mama of three Naomi Morrow shares her story of desperately trying to find ways of reigniting her creative passion in amongst her children, and realising that when you surrender to what’s around you, her creativity was already there in the little moments, just waiting for her.
“My fingers move over the piano keys, more awkwardly than before. I remember the notes but I can tell I have lost skill. It has been so long since I identified as a musician, as a creative. I wondered if it was possible to reclaim that space. I missed it. Suddenly, a little one plonked alongside me, her small sticky hands pounding the keys “Mama, I play too! Old MacDonald had a…farm!”
Strumming the guitar, singing a song I used to know…a little one climbs up on the bed, “MOOSIC!” she chortles and clamps her hand over the fretboard. Suddenly my song doesn’t sound like the one I used to know.
Turning up the Saturday morning playlist loud (Boy and Bear, it goes well with coffee), feeling excited at the promise of a weekend – belting out “Lordy May” when suddenly Bieber is urging “Let Me Love You.” The little ones laugh in conspiracy – they know how to operate Spotify now.
Sketching a floral design with an inky black pen, feeling expressive and satisfied. I notice my shoulders drop and I breathe a little more deeply and slowly. It’s quiet here at the table. Suddenly, a small voice calls “Hey Mum! Can you draw a Ninja Turtle eating a pizza, but with no pineapple on it?”
Painting an abstract canvas at the kitchen table. I have just enrolled in an online painting course. It’s 10pm and the little ones are asleep. I spread out all the paints and brushes. I listen to music on my headphones as I paint. I feel free and creative. Soon though, I tire and need to pack away the materials before another huge day of mothering. I am impatient and don’t let the glaze dry in time. The painting smudges and my careful marks disappear under the wet glaze.
Claiming my creative space and nurturing my creative spirit, especially as a mother, feels essential but at times, barely possible.
When I look at how I would traditionally claim space for creative expression – it’s centred on a pre-motherhood life. A life that is spacious, rested and independent.
I’ve learned that I can no longer use my old references and definitions of what a creative life means to me – because now, as a Mama of three little ones – it simply does not fit in the same way.
But, when I am standing in truth, and honouring the true sacredness of mothering and what it means to me – then I can fully access a creative wisdom and knowledge that was not known to me before.
Walking home from the park, we slow to halt. Reaching down, we notice the smooth texture of discarded bark sheafs. They will make the perfect canvases for our watercolours. We throw as much as we can into the bottom of the pram. This is noticing.
Zooming around in the art gallery, they stop and giggle at the nude paintings. I chuckle along. This is art appreciation.
Lining up the chairs for a home grown dance and comedy show in the backyard. This is theatre.
Colouring in and out of the lines. This is freedom.
Turning our sketching ‘mistakes’ into something new. This is resilience.
Singing to Ed Sheeran in the car on the way to school. This is harmony.
Hanging our projects on the wall. This is pride.
Ninja kicking from the lounge room sofa. This is imagination.
Dancing in the kitchen while Dad makes pancakes. This is fun.
Gazing at the sky and seeing elephants in the clouds. This is peaceful.
Playing the wrong note at the piano. This is process.
Guessing the instruments in the orchestral piece. This is listening.
Scribbling, then colouring in the gaps. This is creating beauty amidst chaos.
Sharing our favourite songs. This is understanding.
Describing the events from our days. This is storytelling.
Crafting a thank you card. This is connection.
As a mama, I see the gift and responsibility that is bestowed to me. I can choose to role model a creative life to my little ones. They are watching me.
I let them see me daydream. I let them see me choose creative pursuits, to wonder at beauty in nature, in an art gallery, in their own creations and projects. I let them see me try. I let them see me trust the process and detach from the outcome.
But I know it is they who are teaching me. They are my creative role models.
Together we learn that creativity is our birthright. We learn that creativity can be expressed freely and without judgement. We learn that it is a portal to deeper connections, within ourselves, our relationships and our communities. We learn that creativity offers us a sense of magic, wonder and mystery – in both the sacred and ordinary. We learn that creativity means taking risks, being brave and innovative in thought, imagination and action. We learn that being immersed in creative expression enters us into a state of ‘flow’ which relaxes us, reduces anxiety, boosts self-esteem and happiness.
Creativity is not waiting for us, in our rare moments of mama solitude.
It is within us, and our children. Shared together, creativity is ignited to be both real and magical.”
Naomi Morrow is a Certified Life + Creativity Coach and mum of three, passionate about supporting women (especially mothers) tune into their own needs and feel inspired about their life, relationships, work and creativity. Naomi helps her clients blitz through fears and limiting beliefs that are blocking their path to the life they truly desire. Naomi’s coaching expertise is supported by her qualifications and over 15 years’ experience in Counselling, Social Work + Creative Arts Therapies.