“What have you shut down to get the family you desired, Amy?”

That was the question that stopped my heart. The moment it was asked, I knew the answer: I had shut down a very big part of who I was in the belief that I could not have both. I could not have that and be the mama, partner, sister, daughter, woman I desired to be. They simply were not compatible.

We do this a lot. As women, we shut parts of ourselves down in the mistaken belief that we can’t be something AND be the mama or woman we need to be right now.

But although life is all about compromises – especially when you have small children – shutting down a core part of yourself is never the answer. There has to be a way to honour ALL of you, even in the smallest ways, even in the middle of motherhood.

In this episode, I share what happened when I was asked this question recently. And what we can all do about calling back in that part of us we have long given up on.